How to Filter Conflicting Advice and Prepare for a Fearless Natural VBAC Birth
Planning for a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) can feel like stepping into a maze, with advice flying at you from every direction. Your doctor says one thing, your mom has another take, and social media? It’s a whole circus of opinions and “what if” scenarios. It’s enough to make you want to throw up your hands and settle for whatever happens. But deep down, you know you want more. You want a birth experience that’s yours—one filled with confidence, intention, and faith.
The key to achieving a fearless VBAC isn’t about dodging every conflicting opinion but learning how to filter the noise and focus on what truly matters: your vision for your birth. Let’s explore how to cut through the chaos, build a solid plan, and step into your VBAC journey with unshakable confidence.
Clarity is Your Compass
When everyone around you has an opinion, it’s easy to feel like a ship tossed at sea. That’s why getting crystal clear on your vision is essential (insert link for birth vision planner). Knowing what you want for your VBAC acts as your compass, guiding you through decisions and helping you stay grounded when the noise gets loud.
Start by identifying your priorities. What’s non-negotiable for you? Is it a calm environment, minimal interventions, or having a doula by your side? Write it down. Then, take it to prayer. Ask God to guide your heart and help you clarify your goals. When your vision is rooted in faith, it’s much easier to stay the course, no matter what waves of advice come your way.
Once you’ve mapped out your plan, don’t keep it to yourself. Share it with your birth team and your closest supporters so everyone is aligned. A vision kept quiet is just a wish; a vision shared is a roadmap.
Knowledge is power, but Not All Knowledge is created equal
Let’s address the elephant in the room: the internet. It’s both a blessing and a curse when preparing for a VBAC. While there’s no shortage of information out there, it can quickly become overwhelming and contradictory. The secret to cutting through the chaos is seeking out evidence-based resources and trusted guidance that align with your goals.
Start with credible sources that provide clear, fact-based information about VBAC safety and benefits. Look for birth classes that specifically speak toVBAC moms like my OWN your birth child birth education course, and don’t be afraid to ask your provider hard questions. The more you know, the more empowered you’ll feel to make decisions that reflect your values.
But—and this is a big but—don’t let research turn into doomscrolling. Not every story or statistic is relevant to you. Keep your focus on what builds your confidence, not what feeds your fears.
Your Filter is Your Friend
When conflicting advice comes your way (because it will), remember this: You don’t have to take everything in. Think of advice like a buffet. Take what nourishes you and leave the rest. You’re allowed to say “thank you” and then promptly ignore Aunt Susan’s unsolicited opinions about VBACs. Remember, the term "once a c-section, always a c-section" is out of date and not evidence based.
Instead, measure advice against your vision. Does it align with your goals, or does it pull you further away from them? If it’s not helping you, it’s not worth holding onto. And trust your instincts—God gave them to you for a reason. If something feels off, it probably is.
Fearless Doesn’t Mean Perfect
Let’s talk about fear. It’s sneaky, isn’t it? It creeps in through past birth trauma, negative stories, and those quiet moments of doubt. But fearless doesn’t mean you never feel afraid; it means you choose faith over fear every single time it shows up.
Building a fearless mindset starts with intention. Speak affirmations over yourself daily: “I am capable. My body is strong. God’s design for birth is good.” Use these truths as a shield against doubt. If fear from a previous birth experience still lingers, consider working with a counselor or doula who can help you process those emotions and release what’s no longer serving you. And above all, lean into your faith. When you trust God’s plan for your birth, fear loses its grip.
The Right Team Makes All the Difference
A fearless VBAC isn’t just about preparation; it’s also about having a solid team in your corner. Surround yourself with people who believe in your ability to birth the way you want and are committed to supporting your vision.
This might mean finding a VBAC-friendly provider who respects your goals or hiring a doula who can advocate for you when the going gets tough. It could also mean having honest conversations with your partner, making sure they understand your wishes and how they can support you during labor. The right team creates a foundation of trust and encouragement, giving you the strength to birth fearlessly.
Your Vision Starts Here
Your VBAC journey begins with clarity, and I want to help you get there. That’s why I’ve created a free Birth Vision Guide to walk you through the process of building a birth plan that aligns with your goals and values. This resource will help you filter out the noise, embrace confidence, and prepare for the empowering birth you deserve.
Download your free Birth Vision Planner today and take the first step toward a fearless VBAC. Let’s make your birth story one you’ll cherish forever.
What advice about VBAC are you ready to leave behind? send me a message here and let me know your thoughts. —I’d love to hear your story and cheer you on!